The death of the grown-up, part 99,877
Three years ago, I blogged about an inane trend called “cuddle parties.” Yes, it’s as ridiculous as it sounds: A bunch of adults in pajamas getting in touch with their touchy-feely inner selves by snuggling up and spooning with strangers. (I know: Sounds like something the press corps groupies are dying to have with Barack Obama.)
Three years later, the MSM is still “discovering” the stupidity. Via Hot Air headlines, Philly TV station CBS 3 ventures into the cuddle party culture:
In today’s non-stop rush to get here and there, maneuvering through a crowd of hundreds and in and out of lines of traffic, some people worry that they are losing touch with each other. Now as CBS 3’s Mary Stoker-Smith reports there’s a way to really reach out and touch somebody else. You can do it a cuddle party.
A Cuddle Party may look like a pajama party for grown-ups. It’s fun but there are rules. The number one rule, pajamas stay on the whole time. This is a non-sexual event.
Okay, now that we have that out of the way you may ask yourself, what’s a cuddle party?
“This is a way of framing touch in a positive way,” says cuddle party facilitator Edie Weinstein-Moser.
Edie says the parties which are held around the country and in our area are meant to help people achieve better intimacy, and communication. And it allows people to express themselves in a comfortable and safe environment.
There’s snuggling, nuzzling and even spooning. But not everyone’s ready for a group hug right away since you may not know everyone. So to get comfortable there are a few steps to start with.
The first step, whether you’re with a partner or by yourself, is to sit and chat in a welcome circle. You hear the rules which include asking permission and getting a verbal yes before you touch anybody. And if everyone agrees to all of the rules, the cuddling begins.
“I love experiencing the feelings that come up when you connect with each individual person,” said cuddle party-goer Linda Hunter at a recent Phoenixville party.
And yes, there’s even a Cuddle Party website for those interested in partaking of “boundary-appropriate workshops.”
Diana West diagnosed our 9/10 ills so succinctly: It’s “The Death of the Grown-Up.”
Softer and softer we grow…
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Ugghh!
dumbest crap i ever heard of
It’s amazing in 60 years,Society installed in us, father and mother in seperate beds, and now to strangers coming together to share a bed because they’re lonely. A welcome circle? Seriously. Go out and speak to someone you’re interested in. Then see where it goes. You don’t get the safety of sleeping next to someone and hoping they won’t kill you to at least it gets serious. All these people and their shortcuts wondering why they never can get ahead.
Oh the humanity. More 60’s trash and psycho-silliness. I think Ill go munch on a bowl of dirt. It’s eco-friendly ya know, and good for my aura.
Precursor to the Neo-Roman debauchery? That’s exactly where this stupidity is headed. These people need a good kick in the arse.
I agree…more of the 60s trash. People are so busy in their lives that they can’t be social. Maybe, instead of “cuddle parties”, people ought to reassess their own lives and quit trying to fit in 2 weeks in 1 week. I’m waiting for my 3 daughters and their families to show up for a bbq at my place. We’ll spend the afternoon…communicating. All of us don’t need “cuddle parties”.
Oh give me a flippin break.
do they pass out pacifiers also?
mamby pambies.
If you can find anybody who believes that this is nonsexual, please send me his address. I’d like to make him an offer on the Brooklyn Bridge.
How fragile, the poor dears.
Now that’s what I call desperate.
Wah.
Diana West’s book should be required reading. It opened the eyes of such a cynical person as me. I thought that all the time I was getting sick and tired of teenager this and teenager that, I was wrong.I thought that wearing a suit to church, not wearing a hat in a building was passe But, no…. the adults never grew up. This Cuddle Party is nothing but escapism in it’s budding perversion.
What happens in Europe stays in Europe, well if it doesn’t, it should. More simple minded left wingers showing how asinine they can be given 1/2 a chance.
This sounds like cover for a kid-toucher get together. It used to be as easy as staying away from the creepy dude at the end of the block in a van.
Their website is hilarious. A “certified cuddle party facilitator,” is that the C.C.P.F. that I see on so many resumes today? I wouldn’t be surprised if their is a C.C.P.F. cabinet position in the S.F. Mayors office.
Oops, bad grammar. “their” should be “there.”
There’s nothing wrong with cuddle parties that a few well-placed hand grenades wouldn’t fix. Now I understand why some, after Kent State, joined the National Guard so they could shoot hippies.
At least the old-time orgies made sense; what are these lameos doing? Cuddling in their jammies? Bah. Mr. Hefner laughs in their general direction. If you’re going to do debauchery, at least put some thought and effort into it.
If these folks are so busy with their whiny and empty lives why don’t they take one Sunday morning–one–and go to a local church service? They could then meet new and interesting people who do not require they spoon with them to be friends. What a novel approach don’t ya say? They may actually find they enjoyed the visit.
Yes I know, these people are probably mostly all Godless, but it never hurts to try.
I would go……but only after a large meal of Mexican food, with a healthy dose of fiber as a chaser.
Loooooooooooooooo-zers!
Maybe this is what the Democrats need in order to properly communicate with the jihadis and convince them they want piece. It has just as good a chance as sitting around the campfire hugging and singing kumbaya.
that should be peace.
But who knows, it may work out the same.
Congress should schedule one of these parties; it’s just their speed!
Eeeeew! These are the type of people driving around with “1-20-09″ bumper stickers… I flipped one off last night for driving way too slow in the fast lane. That’s my way of communicating with them. Didn’t notice if they were in their Obama jammies.
The thought of the whole “cuddle party” thing makes my skin crawl. I’m not a touchy person anyway, so that makes it even more difficult to comprehend. All I can say is “Get a LIFE!!!!”. It’s no wonder these same crazies think Obama is so wonderful. He speaks to their ilk perfectly. Let’s all have a group hug and think “Change” and everything will be okay. Icky.
What were they driving? A hybrid? Old rusty Volvo? VW microbus?
LOL… too funny #27… it WAS a Volvo!
Great just great, there’s a cuddle party facilitator training session scheduled here in MN This Monday thru Wednesday! What the heck takes three days to learn that is sooo stupid…..oh wait…never mind.
Creepy. Very creepy. And what self-respecting person attends a “cuddle party?”
…well, I guess “self-respecting” is the operative word, there…
If their personality doesn’t allow them to become physically intimate with people they know, what else are they going to do but find a way to be physically intimate with strangers?
oooohhhh kaaayyyy. im on this one as long as the rest of the strangers consist of the Dallas Cowboys cheerleaders. First and second string.
From their web site: non-sexual erections.
Sounds good to me!!
Oh, shucks. Never mind. They had me sold for a minute there.
Also indicates the absolute death of the MSM. They seem to lament ’serious’ journalism, which is another name for politically correct anti-American journalism. The alternative to PC stories seems to be garbage like this. I don’t know which is worse, so as you say, you keep uup with this so we won’t have to.
Pathetic!
If only Code Pink could have a Cuddle Party w/ the terrorists. All our problems would be solved! (sarc.)
ewww. stinky people. ewwww. double ewww and no. hell no.
next thing you know there will be a NAMBLA version of this crud.
but what do we expect of people when the state has consumed so much of the family’s traditional integrity in society?
sucker pod people who are “wookin pa nub” in all the wrong places.
“hug” and “cuddle” have been made into profane expressions of people who need to put their hands on anything they cannot eat or crap on.
yes. I have an attitude about American liberal morality trips.
sue me.
How much does anyone want to bet that all these dumb men and women at “cuddle parties” will be voting for Barack Hussein Obama? There is definitely a pattern here.
When you give up your religion and become godless, you have insane and bizarre needs to make up for the loss of a connection with God, hence environentalism, “cuddle parties,” the need for Obama to be your savior, etc.
Why is it those on the left seem to overreact to everything? “we’re losing touch with each other” [GAG reflex engaged now!] With them, everything is “feelings”! No wonder they come unglued and scream obscenities when confronted with logic by a conservative! It’s all about “feelings”, to hell with logic! It’s so refreshing to meet with fellow members of SMIA today, and converse with normal logical women of the same persuasion, and not a single one was “disconnected” or in need of “cuddling”!
Because they want to destroy self-discipline and think that religion is the root of all evil, except for Islam, which is a religion of peace.
Just ask terrorist-cheerleader LGM.
The only potential upside of this is the spirit of American entrepreneurial spirit of capitalism at work! At least someone’s making money off their lunacy!
Where’s my screen cleaner when I need it?
# 41 Hahahaha
Pull a Dutch Oven at the cuddle party?
RAAALLLFFF! Are these people for real? Some genuine psychoanalysis might be in order here!
Do any men actually go to these? I’m guessing not.
What of the repulsive guy or gal?
Shall we have “special needs” welcome circles for the gravity challenged or those with bad breath or deformities? Or rather, shall we integrate them and re-educate the queasy on getting past “first appearances?
(”Frankly sir, you don’t look like one of us, why don’t you try the homeless cuddle circle under the highway overpass?”)
Its all good until the lonely old fat guy/gal shows up.
I’ve got it! We need a government program, say the “Ministry of Social Integration”, to ensure that every one of the “beautiful people” is paired up with the like and thus shielded from the horror of having some disgusting 50-something entering the “spooning circle” with a nasty ole woody!
::sarc off::
Married folks should have no need of this and singles should run for the hills. What rubbish.
Ummm…weren’t these what they used to call “swingers” in the ’70s? I don’t know, but I find it hard to believe that some if not most of these parties stay “non sexual events.”
For crying out loud, if you are that hard up for human companionship go see a counselor!
You mean soft-headed, Michelle?
It’s not surprising that people who can’t find a way to connect with others in a normal emotional manner take refuge in this false intimacy.
Tennesse Dave wrote:
and
No, you were right the first time. It is the party of Bill Clinton, after all.
But the jihads don’t want peace or piece. They just want pieces.
Well I hope you’re all happy. All this non-conformity and lack of desire to fit in is going to get us all kicked out of the welcome circle. Now I just wish I was dead. Oh wait not me, them.
Hmmm cuddles huh? Well unless it involves me and several Hooters girls, or NFL cherleaders, I say no way!
Sounds like more hyphenated liberal crap.
Bunch of pervs.
Not reals ones.
All i n say is ..OH MY GOD….
I’m finding it hard to muster any kind of rage over this.
If these people want to go cuddle strangers, then by all means, go ahead. Just as long as they don’t expect me to, well, understand why; or worse, to take them seriously ever again.
It’s this kind of behavior that makes me go, “Gee, and people wonder why they’re never happy…”
There’s a mentality in our culture - in everything from housing to relationships - of entitlement. But not the slightest understanding of sacrifice or hard work or patience. Especially in relationships. Just how many television shows - and how many people in real life - extol the glories of the “hook up”, the “one night stand” or having sex after just a few dates?
And those who see that (or these “cuddle parties”) as an acceptable form of sexual expression would probably be the same ones who claim if we just had a little more license to do (insert random sexual vice here), people would be happier! It’s prudes like us conservatives and those who think sex should be reserved for marriage who are making things unbearable for the rest of us!
That’s pretty much been the mantra since the late 1960s and even with the rise of abortion, birth control, and pretty lax attitudes toward such behavior, people are *still* miserable and forever in search of “happiness”. And forever blaming everyone and anyone but failing to look at themselves in the mirror and even begin to acknowledge that maybe their libertine “lifestyle choices” are what’s causing their misery. Not anyone else.
The feeling I have in my gut about this is that I would feel cheap. Uncomfortable. Weird, cuddling with either a total stranger or a “friend”. My relationship with my husband makes me whole; respected and dignified as a person, not used and cast aside like an object.
I wish others could see that.
Where-o-where have all the adults gone? It’s time to grow up!
It’s another was to make money off suckers; PT Barnum.
I can’t even comprehend the state of mind they live in. But these are the kind of people that follow Jim Jones. I’m sorry I mean Glowbama.
I can’t even comprehend the state of mind they live in. But these are the kind of people that follow Jim Jones. I’m sorry I mean Glowbama.
“Cuddle parties” sounds like a euphemism for key parties, swing parties, or orgies.
When will these become mandatory for Democratic primary candidates?
chsw
Don’t be so hard on cuddlers, Michelle, we all need a cuddle sometimes. Hey, I can cuddle and then hunt terrorists the next day
This is just downright creepy.
Stop texting, put away the Blackberry and actually talk to people, freaks!
I think I’m going to be ill…
is this a “Joke” ?? i sure didn’t get a warm and fuzzy feeling reading this
I am going to throw up.
Group sex? That I can understand. Maybe I don’t condone it, but I at least can understand it.
This? This is mental illness.
Given “the rules,” I get to decide whether I want to “spoon” or not. Given that, I’ll lay it right out there:
#1, I ain’t laying down with anyone who isn’t attractive,
#2, I ain’t laying down with an attractive woman, smelling her hair, feeling her body against mine, feeling her body heat, feeling her breath, hearing her heartbeat, etc…
without wanting more. A LOT more.
And any guy who doesn’t feel largely the same way is the kind of guy I’ve always had a hard time understanding.
We tried the Alan Alda and Phil Donahue approach to manhood, and all it yielded was a generation with far too many eunuchs.
These people are pathetic. Seriously…
I would like to go to a cuddle party the day after eating 20 White Castles with cheese, a plate full of nachos with beans and jalapeño peppers, and a big vanilla milkshake.
For the good of real Americans, I’d end cuddle parties one at a time.
creepy beyond words.
Spot on! This is a primer course for those who sould like to see what the “free love” of the 60’s & 70’s were all about.
Now I have to listen more closely and make sure my wife says she’s going to a “candle” party.
“Hey babe, wanna grab a little Mexican after the puppy pile?”
“No thanks, I did that last week and got Mole sauce all over my PJ’s!”
Ah… first post ever here, yay!
Cuddle parties must be an old (middle-aged) person thing. Not too many of us 20 yr olds running around saying, “let’s put on some jammies and just snuggle alllll night”.
Now, I’m all for sexual deviance but this one (an erection is not sexual, bwahahahahaha!) is just too strange… kinda like furries and bears.
I’m going to graduate from college and get a job and wonder, constantly, whether my bosses are secret cuddle-fetishists. What a fantastic way to put fear into an underling!
This is just another (in a long line of 60’s scams) causing the feminization of the American male.
I don’t mean to sound derogeratory towards women, because I have the utmost love, respect and admiration for the strength of women (just the fact that my wife hasn’t killed me in my sleep is testimony enough).
But by nature, women are designed to nurture, and perpetuate the species and men are designed to hunt and defend the tribe sacrificing his own life if necessary to insure the future of the family/tribe. And to my mind, cuddle parties and similar such 60’s type BS undermines both roles, and will lead to the collapse of our society.
This is not to say that women should stay home barefoot and pregnant. We as a people have evolved enough to recognize an individuals right to seek opportunity and reward for effort regardless of gender.
But the need in our society for men to be men and women to be women doesn’t degrade equal rights or equal reward.
In countries/societies that aren’t living to our “modern level” i.e. the 7th century, the people believe in physical confrontation, to resolve differences and destroy competing societies. And I don’t think they are interested in cuddling. So if American men get softened up by having cuddle parties, when we are forced to fight for our very survival, we are doomed.
Just my opinion.
Load more ammo for when cuddling doesn’t work.
I think I’d rather go to a deer hunting camp, or go fishing, or riding my Harley, or go to a barbecue, or….
Egad! I’ll stick to cuddling with my kids. Even cuddling with my stinky dog is more appealing than this. This is downright creepy.
I wonder if Michelle Obama has heard of these - since she’s so unhappy, and laments the loss of kindness and happiness in the U.S., maybe this is just what she needs.
That’s it! See, liberals don’t have children!
My one question which strikes me as blatantly obvious is, isn’t this a shiny front for the typical “free love” and “love the one you’re with” mentality that this espouses? I wonder what the percentage of sexual encounters are immediately after a cuddle party…..
Non-sexual event? What does the CPO (Cuddle Party Organizer) do when Mr. “Boner in Sweatpants” rears himself?
I think I’m going to vomit.